Late last week my dad gave us quite the medical scare. He experienced an issue with his heart due to a blocked artery and his cardiologist was able to repair it and my dad is doing great. Thankfully he is fine and we are all incredibly grateful. For any of you who know my dad, you’ll appreciate that at his very first opportunity, he was making light of things, ensuring that he knows everyone’s name and thanking them for all that they do. My dad is a true gentleman in every way.
As this whole thing was happening, many things were swirling about within me. What would I do if
we lost my dad? How do you say goodbye to someone who is so important to you? Any memories of me not being present or being short with my dad came rushing in and you start asking questions like, does my dad know how much I love him? Have I told him that enough? Does he know how much he means to me and how much he has taught me? He needs to know this and I’m not sure he does. He’s not ready to go. He still has much to see and experience, such as seeing 2 of his 5 daughters meet their sacred partners, watching his grandchildren grow up, creating more memories with my mom and the rest of our family, continuing to do his volunteer work and enjoying life. Then, as I’m telling my dad how much I love him, he turns around and says, “MK I know how much you love me.” My dad’s loving spirit was expressing himself as he’s consoling me and wanting me to feel some comfort, which is just one of the amazing things about this incredibly selfless and loving man.
As a person who is spiritually awake, the lense I use to view the universe and what’s occurring in my environment is vast and deep. I see, feel, know and experience many things during my everyday life, and as an empath, I pick up on just about everything in my environment. There was much spiritual magic that happened during this experience, including me and my mom connecting with visitors in the waiting room, 2 of which are adopted like me, and sharing our stories. Watching my parents together and seeing their love for each other and the expression of their Higher Selves and their light shining through. My mom’s strength, ability to hang in there and never ending love and care for my dad. And my dad’s strength of will, acceptance, grace and presence. Oh and of course Archangels Michael and Raphael and the rest of our spiritual teams were with us ready to assist and guide as needed.
You see, my dad sets the example when it comes to being present and enjoying the moment. He has taught me so much about how to “be” and the value of not letting your life circumstances define you or hold you back and how your outlook shapes everything in your external world. My dad has SMA which is spinal muscular atrophy and has been a unique medical anomaly since his early 20’s. Even the best physicians in Boston were stumped with his medical situation. He carries symptoms of muscular dystrophy and ALS, but doesn’t truly fit any one category. In spite of all of this, my dad gets up every day and does his best all while keeping an amazing disposition. And it’s not easy for this man to move around, get ready in the morning and perform some of the simplest of tasks, but he does it all with a “can do” attitude, a sense of humor and class.
The love that my parents have for each other was shining brighter than ever during this experience. Even during all of the craziness at the hospital, including more than a 14-hour wait in the ER, they shared stories and talked about life and showed they are truly each other’s best friend. Even in this moment where my dad had minimal sleep, wasn’t allowed to eat or drink, waiting many hours while lying in discomfort on a crappy ER hospital bed, with the fear of the unknown swirling about, and my mom experiencing everything my dad was, they carried on with their chit chat, care and unconditional love for each other. I was witnessing true unconditional love and friendship expressing on deep levels during a time of major distress. These moments were not lost on me.
I believe these types of events happen for many reasons and each situation is unique to the individual’s soul and life purpose. Sometimes it’s to help people surface and express their Higher Self, other times it’s to test them to see how serious they are about the next part of their mission while being here on Earth, and at times it’s to help them remember the incredible gift life offers each of us. I plan to have a chat with my dad about his feelings on his experience and listen to all of his insights and wisdom.
This morning I remembered that it’s Valentine’s weekend. Many of us think of this holiday as a time to splurge on your romantic love interest and make sure your children have valentine cards to give out at school. Valentine’s Day is a feel good day, yet I tend to view Valentine’s Day as a holiday where Hallmark and the local jewelers and chocolate shops make a bundle as I don’t limit my personal expression of love to one day a year. This year, my heart is extra full knowing that my dad is okay and we have more time to connect, make memories and enjoy life and that my parents have an opportunity to do the same. I also will remember being part of the love experience between my parents during my dad’s situation and how precious it was to be there. I will do my best to ensure my dad and all those I love know how much they mean to me. I will also continue to embrace staying present, living in the moment and enjoying life, just like my dad has done my entire lifetime.
Often we tell ourselves that we’ll have time to do this, that and the other thing, but the truth is that’s not how the universe works. Regret isn’t an easy lesson to experience. I hope this time inspires you to reach out now to those important people in your life and extend your unconditional love to them.
Much love and heart to each of you!